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Support for Your Threshold Crossing
Reading for Depth and Transformation
HOW I CURATE THESE RECOMMENDATIONS
These aren't "top 10" lists from the internet. These are books I've read, worked with, and found genuinely valuable for threshold crossing.
I recommend books that:
- Go deep (not surface-level self-help)
- Include shadow (not just positivity)
- Honour the crossing (not rush through it)
- Are well-written (craft matters)
I avoid recommending books that:
- Spiritual bypass
- Promise quick fixes
- Pathologise normal threshold experience
- Are poorly written (even if content is okay)
BOOKS BY CATEGORY
THRESHOLD & TRANSFORMATION
Transitions: Making Sense of Life's Changes
William Bridges
The classic on navigating life transitions. Bridges' three-phase model (Ending → Neutral Zone → New Beginning) parallels - The Threshold Methodology™. Essential reading.
The Way of Transition: Embracing Life's Most Difficult Moments
William Bridges
Bridges wrote this after his wife's death. More personal, more depth. If you're in grief-related threshold, start here.
Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life
Richard Rohr
Rohr on the "second half of life"-when everything you built falls apart and something deeper emerges. Profound for midlife thresholds.
When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
Pema Chödrön
Buddhist perspective on groundlessness. How to be in the falling apart without rushing to put yourself back together. Read when you're in Unraveling.
GRIEF & DEATH
It's OK That You're Not OK
Megan Devine
The best book on grief I know. Devine doesn't try to help you "heal" - she validates that it's as bad as you think it is. Revolutionary.
The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief
Francis Weller
Grief as sacred work. Weller brings ritual, community, and depth to grief. Read when you're ready to stop pathologising your sorrow.
H Is for Hawk
Helen Macdonald
Memoir of grief and training a goshawk after father's death. Not a "grief book" - a book that holds grief. Stunning writing.
The Year of Magical Thinking
Joan Didion
Didion on her husband's sudden death. Spare, precise, devastating. Shows what early grief actually feels like.
DIVORCE & RELATIONSHIP ENDING
Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After
Katherine Woodward Thomas
The book that named "conscious uncoupling." Good framework for ending with integrity. Read if you're separating.
Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with BD or NPD
Bill Eddy & Randi Kreger
If you're divorcing someone with personality disorder, this is essential. Practical strategies for high-conflict situations.
The Journey from Abandonment to Healing
Susan Anderson
For those who were left. Maps the stages of abandonment grief. Helpful if your divorce wasn't your choice.
CO-PARENTING & HIGH-CONFLICT
BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People
Bill Eddy
How to communicate with high-conflict people - Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm. Essential for parallel parenting
Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex
Amy J.L. Baker & Paul R. Fine
Practical strategies when your co-parent is abusive, narcissistic, or otherwise impossible. Not idealistic-realistic.
Divorce Poison: How to Protect Your Family from Badmouthing & Brainwashing
Richard A. Warshak
On parental alienation. How to protect your children and your relationship with them when the other parent is undermining you.
SHADOW WORK & DEPTH PSYCHOLOGY
Owning Your Own Shadow: Understanding the Dark Side of the Psyche
Robert A. Johnson
Brief, accessible introduction to shadow work. Johnson was Jungian analyst. Start here if you're new to shadow.
Meeting the Shadow: The Hidden Power of the Dark Side of Human Nature
Edited by Connie Zweig & Jeremiah Abrams
Anthology of essays on shadow from multiple perspectives - Jungian, mythological, political, personal. Rich collection.
Women Who Run with the Wolves
Clarissa Pinkola Estés
Myth and archetype for women's psychic life. Dense, rich, wild. Best taken slowly, not read straight through.
Iron John: A Book About Men
Robert Bly
Myth and depth psychology for men. Bly on wildness, shadow, initiation. Foundational for men's inner work.
SOMATIC & BODY-BASED
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
Bessel van der Kolk
The definitive book on how trauma lives in the body. Dense but important. Changes how you understand your own body.
Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma
Peter A. Levine
Levine developed Somatic Experiencing. Accessible introduction to body-based trauma work. Good place to start.
SPIRITUAL CRISIS & AWAKENING
The Dark Night of the Soul
Gerald G. May
Not St. John of the Cross-but about him. May on the spiritual crisis that precedes deeper awakening. Read when your faith is dissolving.
When the Heart Waits: Spiritual Direction for Life's Sacred Questions
Sue Monk Kidd
Kidd on her midlife spiritual crisis. Not rushing the transformation. Beautiful writing, depth spirituality.
FOR CHILDREN
To Help Them Through Threshold
The Invisible String
Patrice Karst
Picture book for young children about connection surviving separation. Good for divorce, death, any separation.
Two Homes
Claire Masurel
Picture book for young children with divorced parents. Normalises two homes, both full of love.
Dinosaurs Divorce
Laurie Krasny Brown & Marc Brown
Classic children's book on divorce. Practical, reassuring, addresses real fears kids have.
The Memory Box: A Book About Grief
Joanna Rowland
Picture book for children about grief and keeping connection with someone who died.
Trusted Practitioners for Referrals
HOW I CURATE THIS DIRECTORY
If I'm not the right fit for your crossing-or you need support I don't provide, here are practitioners I trust.
I only list practitioners who:
- I know personally or by strong reputation
- I trust with my own clients
- Work with depth and integrity
- Are not spiritual bypassers
- Are clear about scope of practice
This is not a comprehensive directory. It's a curated list of people I'd refer my own clients to.
NOTE ON PRACTITIONER REFERRALS
I don't not receive commission for referring these practitioners. These are practitioners I've used during my past or present Threshold crossings or those I trust.
