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INDIVIDUAL THRESHOLD SUPPORT
WHEN YOUR WORLD UNMAKES YOU
✓ Your old life/identity no longer fits (but you don't know who you're becoming)
✓ Someone you love died (and grief is unmaking you)
✓ Your marriage ended (and you don't know who you are without "we")
✓ Diagnosis changed everything (and your body/future feel foreign)
✓ You're in spiritual awakening or existential crisis (and nothing makes sense anymore)
✓ Profound disillusionment shattered your worldview (and you can't go back to believing what you believed)
✓ You're experiencing what others call "breakdown" (but you sense it's actually breakthrough)
✓ Therapy helps but doesn't touch the depth of what you're crossing
✓ You need witness, not fixing. Depth, not advice. Ritual, not rationalisation.
✓ You want to cross this consciously (with awareness, integration, meaning-making)
THE THRESHOLD METHODOLOGY™ APPLIED TO INDIVIDUAL WORK
STAGE 1: UNRAVELING
"Everything is falling apart. I don't know who I am anymore."
What's happening:
- Your old identity is dissolving
- Grief, rage, confusion, disorientation
- Can't hold the old form anymore
- Feels like dying (because part of you is)
What we do:
- Witness the dissolution (not try to stop it)
- Name the threshold (what's actually ending/opening)
- Hold the grief and rage (shadow work begins)
- Create safety in the chaos
- Rituals for letting go
Practices:
- Grief journaling
- Rage release (somatic work)
- Moon observations (tracking cycles)
- Shadow naming
STAGE 2: RECLAMATION (The Liminal)
"I'm in the void. I'm not who I was, but I don't know who I'm becoming."
What's happening:
- You're between identities (liminal space)
- Retrieving lost parts of self
- Experimenting with new forms
- Uncertainty and possibility coexist
- Deep disorientation (and sometimes strange aliveness)
What we do:
- Hold you in the void (not rush you out)
- Reclaim disowned parts (shadow integration)
- Practice embodiment (somatic work intensifies)
- Explore new identities (without committing yet)
- Meaning-making begins
Practices:
- Shadow dialogues
- Somatic exploration
- Identity experiments
- Dreamwork
- Creative expression
STAGE 3: AUTHORSHIP
"I'm becoming someone new. I can feel it emerging."
What's happening:
- New identity forming
- Integration of shadow and light
- Authoring life from transformed self
- Not "back to normal" (you're different)
- Embodying the crossing
What we do:
- Support emergence (without forcing)
- Integrate all parts (wholeness, not perfection)
- Author new story (who are you now?)
- Rituals for completion
- Celebrate becoming
Practices:
- Authorship writing
- Integration practices
- New identity embodiment
- Threshold ritual/ceremony
- Book of Becoming™ creation (if Year of Becoming™)
Hi, I'm Zukiswa Phoofolo.
GUIDE OF PROFOUND CROSSINGS
I've crossed thresholds that should have destroyed me.
Death: My own near-death experience has unmade me
Divorce: Parents divorced. Two marriages ended. Three major identity deaths
Diagnosis: Chronic illness changed my body and future
Narcissistic abuse: Years of high-conflict litigation and psychological warfare
Spiritual awakening: My old worldview shattered, new one slowly emerged
Identity dissolution: Who I thought I was dissolved multiple times
I didn't cross these consciously the first few times. I survived. I numbed. I performed "I'm fine." I spiritual-bypassed.
Then I learned what conscious crossing actually is.
I found practitioners who held depth (not platitudes). I did shadow work (not just "healing"). I went into the void (not around it). I let myself be unmade and remade.
And I emerged transformed-not despite the thresholds, but because of them.
Now I hold others through theirs.
Not from theory. From lived experience.
I know what it's like to think you're losing your mind (you're not-you're crossing a threshold).
I know what the books don't tell you about grief, rage, and the void.
I know how to hold someone while they're being unmade.
That's my medicine.
PRICING SUMMARY
Payment plans available for all services.
Limited sliding scale capacity (2-3 spots per quarter for those with financial need and deep commitment).